More than beats

In fact, when our minds and hearts think separately a heavy burden placed on us. Somehow it puts us in bouts of Confusion-Bewilderment that are quite hard to switch off; we simply found ourselves trapped between mind and heart conflict for a long while to avoid ended with utter regret.

Of course, we take major decisions in different ways, some listen to their hearts blindly and others mute their hearts’ whispers and follow their brains altogether. And some attempt to make a balance in a way that makes them more comfortable.

However, for centuries it’s commonly discerned that heart is used solely as a source of sentiments and feelings but not thinking! Accordingly, when it comes to take over decisions the mind rules over the heart, when emotions like compassion, love and dislike are involved, the heart rules. Greeks are one of those who neglected emotions as a source of thoughts, they considered them as wild horses that had to be directed by intellect; on the other hand they worshiped the brain in a way that drove them to make a memory Goddess! Long before the brain structure had been discovered and the functions of the left and right hemispheres, Greeks made simple and so sophisticated methods that help memory soars successfully. But no one seriously consider the heart as a smart organ.

However, recently scientific evidence proved that heart can dictate the brain which is acclaimed as a more sensible and conventionally more realistic decision maker.

The new study shows that the heart’s nervous system contains around 40,000 neurons, called sensory neuritis “heart brain”, which send several signals like pain and other sensation feelings to the brain. Those signals have a regulatory role over many of the autonomic nervous system signals that flow out of the brain to the heart and to other body organs. They also fall into higher centers of the brain, where they may affect on perception, decision making and other cognitive processes.

Certainly, emotions are not always negative and do not always serve as enemies to rational thought. Neurologist Antonio Damasio points out in his book ‘Descartes’ Error’ that heart has rationality of emotion, where he confirmed the importance of emotions in decision making. He proved that patients with brain damage in the areas of the brain that integrate the emotional and cognitive system can no longer effectively function in the day-to-day realm, although their mental abilities are completely normal.

That study shows that the key to the successful integration of the mind and emotions lies in raising the coherence and harmonious process in both systems. This goes some way to explain the mighty power of emotions, in contrast to thought separately. When then emotion is experienced, it becomes great motivator of future behaviors and marks folks who excel in the face of life’s confrontations.

Indeed, the heart is brilliant muscle with unlimited skills that some still underestimating it. Actually, what aroused this post is a debate with a friend of mine weeks back further, when I told her somehow I’m truly yearning for certain state in U.S and I just can’t wait to go there. Her respond was a mixture of sarcasm with absolute wonder.

How could you yearn for state you never been to earlier? She said. The hearts love before we see things by eyes sometimes. I replied

Yes it does, this is a fact about our hearts, for instance; we love our creator though we did not see him and we love our profit too whilst we have never seen him before. Besides there is an important condition for being Muslim which states that we Must love our creator then our profit more than anything else!

That’s true hearts are insightful organs, we do not really listen to our hearts’ whispers attentively under the pretext of the rational thinking usually; for instance that takes place commonly for everyone when we meet those people who look very kind, they smile whenever our eyes meet, they serve us, and surprisingly when we need a help we always find them there standing by us. We approach them and consider them as a permanent gift and good friends; the ones who never simply vamoose one day. We help them back and afford them more sacrifices. We think they truly care and understand absolutely what is within us. Then suddenly we find them not the same people we used to know. We say they got changed and we attempt to find out some sensible excuses to avoid hurting ourselves, to satisfy our pride and minds. Unfortunately, that occurred because we muted our hearts’ whispers previously when our hearts rejected them from the first sight, though we get closer to be more rational depending on our former experiences. Then eventually we realize how hearts can see things we never see by eyes and how they amazingly wise!

Personally, that made a negative impact on me; I realized that I’m less social than ever before, in other words I just do not need any more friends. No additions to the ones I already call my gift.

Thus, we should not strain our hearts, although they are truly intelligent but they can’t always stand life’s tremendous pressure we put on them every once in a long while. Yes, the heart has separated intrinsic nervous system ‘heart brain’ that we can trust and control too, but we Must remember, heart can be a major source of diseases when it’s extremely stressed.

Versatile and Stylish blogger!

Amazingly my heart and mind felt profound thank to my dear friend Blue Pearl for awarding me the versatile blogger award. Although I’m too late for this reply but I’m truly thankful for her. Thanks a lot for your lovely and your superb appreciation honey.

Accordingly, I must follow bloggers rule after getting the award which states writing SEVEN things about me then passing the award to other SEVEN whom simply do the same in case I don’t want to keep it any longer!

Here are seven things about me:

1- There is spontaneous analyzer within me which keeps analyzing people and read faces all the time silently.

2- I’m obsessed about my weight and cleanness!

3- I simply fall asleep when something upsets me or when I got mad as well.

4- I sleep solely in absolute darkness.

5- I'm a night person but sometiomes I don't like it.

6- Somehow sitting in unorganized place irritate me.

7- Seeing cats around me makes my movement ceased simply because I’m “phobic” since my childhood.

Dearest rose water; I’m really thankful for the award you gave me too (Stylish blogger). Thanks for your lovely award sweetheart. Before I state another seven things, I have a confession for you: well,I always impressed by you as European Muslim lady who still dwell on non-Islamic country which is truly uneasy thing especially for a lady. That reflects how strong and sensible you are. May Allah bless you dear.

Here are other seven things about me:

1- I’m still getting taller though I’m “twenty something” currently!

2- I’m movies addict and avid reader too.

3- I can control my outrage by remaining silent, but I reopen the subject that has angered me calmly.

4- I love fancy restaurants and spicy food.

5- I prefer reading your blogs rather than writing and replying.

6- I abruptly wake up if someone is gazing at me through my deep slumber!

7- I enjoy reading some political books and I really care about live news.

Warning: Dearest friends; I would keep those awards with me FOREVER under the title of ‘The gift not given away or sold’ though I appreciate you all profoundly. :P

Best regards R:)

The Mystery Of Life Curve!

Life is a marvelous odyssey that shaped in a mysterious curve which everything passes over. At the end of the odyssey nothing stays but only the immortal imprints that solely great people laid behind in history successfully.

Accordingly, I’ve been meditating the life’s curve for a while over and over again in purpose of figuring out something ambiguous to me. I couldn’t cease these thoughts and I don’t know if this curve involves one of the universal laws or there are some hidden facts and exceptions somewhere.

However, it seems that everything in life passes through peak then oddly somehow descended down to the bottom bit by bit ended by absolute disappearance.
For instance; at the middle of the day the sun hits its peak of strength, it strongly illuminates the sky then gradually losing its light and heat!
The moon, we catch the sight of it while it beautifully enlightening the sky in the middle of the month and then it gradually reshaped to crescent until it just disappears.
We humans reach our utter strength (physically and mentally) at the middle of our ages (the youth age) soon after we gradually get weaken.

The ancient great civilizations as well, went over the top of prosperity and advancement but where are those great civilizations power at present?
As follows, the Islamic civilization went along the height of progress too, but look where is it at the status qou.

Another vivid example “The United States”, it presided the entire world for long time undisputedly with perfect strength in different fields (economically, politically, scientifically...etc) and now it’s declining down gradually because of the financial crisis which it suffers from severely, though its unstoppable attempts to pull itself together and grab the global lordship tightly as before. However, some political analyzers recently said this catastrophic economical crisis will affect on U.S economy and soon after its global control inevitably.

On the other side “China” which has been supposed as a progressing country is strongly nominated to lead the world after U.S because of its excellent economical system which is growing amazingly. So it’s the time for it to hit the summit of advancement!
However, the matter is, when some reach the summit somehow others oddly decline! And as everything incredibly hits the peak it ended at the bottom eventually.

Accordingly, the previous thoughts provoked several wonders in my mind which are: Is there another peak after declining to the bottom eventually? And based on that do you think there is another peak quietly waiting for our Islamic civilization as the sun and moon cycle? Is it possible for us humans or governments to staying steadily on the peak without facing any struggles that may push us back to the bottom? Do you think U.S has the ability to surpass the economical crisis and ascend up back to its usual universal dominion? Do you think a country like China would have the chance to lead the world to the best one day? And finally do you enhance your mental skills in order to stay at the summit of youth (mentally) for longer?

When the man weeps...

Somehow it awes me acutely when I see a dignified man weeping in front of me. For some reasons it’s commonly discerned that masculine tears do not simply shed in public!

However, I have witnessed two abrupt reactions that still remain vivid in my memory. The first, when I was still freshmen or almost sophomore. During asking my professor some questions; he got a phone call, after he ended his call which did not exceed several minutes with limited and countable words like “yes, aha, okay then goodbye” he gasped his pen silently trying to explain the question I asked. While he was clearing my question, gradually his voice was getting stifled then suddenly his eyes rolled with tears. His ability to speak totally ceased. Somehow his miserable state and the way he sniveled dismayed me.

“Well, I got it now, thank you sir I have no more questions” I calmly said. He nodded once as to say you can go. Then I left the place swiftly in a state of bewilderment with achy heart. The next day we heard that his brother passed away.

The second, was utterly not anticipated which occurred couple of days ago after a long debate with my uncle. Actually he is political man with utterly serious and choosy personality but on the opposite he is such kindhearted person. However, the main reason behind our debate is that he was upset with me.

” For some reasons I’m really upset with you” My uncle firmly said.

” What is the reason behind upsetting you?” I demanded in a shock.

“First of all; listen to me dear, if you’re not dear to me I won’t tell you that” he said.

“Sure” I nodded preparing myself for the next.

“Well; since I traveled out of the country I did not get even one phone call from you, I spent almost one month there, why?” he said sedately.

“Besides you know that I have never ever upset you even by hint” he added.

I was listening to him while he was talking hoping that my reasons can persuade him.

“ Well, believe me I always ask my family about you, plus once you told that the spiritual connection is better than phone calls as long as you’re alright; I get all your news daily so no need to disturb you during your business trip I think” I said in a low voice.

He stared at me as my justifications are not persuasive enough as I don’t really care.

“Hmmm….” My uncle said shaking his head slowly from side to side.

” Uh my dear uncle; you don’t know how much I love you and how much I care about you. You’re like my father; you mean a lot to me. Everyone knows that you’re mostly strict but what I believe in is that you’re such tenderhearted. You’re one of the most beautiful parts in my life. I stated impulsively.

“The transparency in the way you expressed your feelings made me speechless” he said surprisingly.

However, when I peeked into him I glimpsed his eyes red and almost in tears. He was looking away from me so that he let his tears dry within before they disheartens him and shed down.

Subconsciously tears filled my eyes too; after I marveled at his first emotional respond I’ve never seen before.

That moment I was thinking about something to break the silence which ruled the atmosphere.

Suddenly my sister came telling me I got a phone call (Thank God). I looked at him to ask if I can go. He nodded at me silently.

To be honest, I left the place smiling with great ease telling myself that people around me are right when they say that I respond unpredictably sometimes but finally I saw your tears mighty man!

The next day I was waiting attentively to hear my uncle’s usual gossips about how we both responded; but he did not tell anybody till now neither me.

What I’m sure about; when it comes to his valuable masculine tears he will never ever say. But the thing that I still did not understand yet; why men feel it’s ashamed when their tears dropped for a serious reason; why they deny their sympathy and prefer facing the world rigidly evermore?

I abhor the tears when the reason behind shedding them is something ridiculous. But it’s fine when we disburden our heads and express what we feel simply.

To my uncle; thank you for your supportive words I’m eternally grateful, and thank you for your faith on me. Love you my dearest uncle.



I'm a birthday girl

Here I came saying cheerily “Happy Birthday To Me”; wishing myself having a marvelous year suffused with merriness and mighty success.

A funny quote just popped into my mind during writing says: “The secret to staying young is to live honestly, eat slowly, and lie about your age.” :D

Wondering why ladies mostly obsessed by staying younger ever more!:D

P.S. To Stay Young Keep Growing Old Gracefully. ;)

best regards

The art of criticism

The anguish in his face looks as raw as it should have felt what always bothers him as he allows the harsh criticizing words he almost daily hears to bob to the surface briefly, before pushing them back down. He attempts to keep what annoyed him and break it by jokes, after listening to his complaints and grumbling in his usual funny tone we both burst laughing.

This is my brother, who utterly got resented when my mother calls him whenever he stays out late.

He says her discourteous way of criticizing him after answering her calls makes him as a joke in front of his peers; and the hilarious thing is he told me they all are treated exactly the same by their mothers and getting phone calls is like hell.

Not only that but his next session is waiting for him immediately when he gets back home so that she criticizes his irresponsibility toward himself and his frivolity etc...

The matter is he does not understand why she usually does that and on the opposite side she does not have a clue that she is criticizing not advising him. I’ve tried repeatedly to explain to them both. But I talked, to no avail.

However criticizing is an art that we must be aware of. And it has good and bad impact which depends on the accent during talking. There is a good way that we can criticize our beloveds and people around us that turn the disapproval to constructive criticism and then positive outcomes appear.

Of course, people do not accept any criticism when they take it personally or even when they got criticized in public or around people even close ones.

I refuse criticizing when I found it worthless. I’ve always found it somehow too complicated for me to refuse my parents criticism. It’s hard to change their solid grasps of thoughts and it's so hard to use the word "no" when they speak. Although somehow I believe that criticizing profoundly benefits us and any clue is subject to change with fruitful outcomes.

However what I'm attempting to reach is how to handle criticism! How could you accept criticism by close ones like parents? When you put the limits of criticism so you cease any criticizer? When you start criticizing and when you just cease it? And what kind of criticism benefits you profoundly in life if there is any superb impact?

Back to hell

This picture has been taken by me. It’s a simple gift  my school girl sister got it from her friend before school starts to welcome her back to school by her unique way!

The moment I read what’s written on the small card " back to hell " I opened my eyes widely then we all burst giggling, what a naughty girl!

I know how it feels when the bells keep ringing *back to school *. At our schools very few number of the competent teachers who like their job and do their job faithfully. Unfortunately the first and last aim of most of them is taking SALARY every month.

Recently I had never met a child told me that s/he loves the school neither adolescent. Somehow that peeved me but that is the truth. To wit, that mess is absolutely against Islam!

However, I had read once about the power of belief and how it shapes our actions and makes lasting changes in our lives marvelously. The writer talked about one great leader who impressed me. She is a TEACHER; she made a real difference in children’s lives, because she has a passionate deep-rooted conviction way that impacts her students for good.

The writer visited her school so that he interviewed one of her students. He interviewed a boy around four years old. The boy believes in such great clues that really stunned me. During the interview the boy said the most important thing he learned from his teacher is “The society may predict, but only he will determine his destiny”!

He owned beliefs that his teacher permeated in their souls beautifully. And I guarantee him and all his class mates’ bright future.

I wonder if there are teachers in our nations who make great impacts in students’ lives instead of compelling them to despise schools and let them pass through psychological wars ended with antipathy towards school and backward societies.

During my life time in school I have seen so many bad examples of teachers who really need two things “reeducation plus psychiatrist” to amend their personal problems.

Don’t know what on earth is wrong with teachers! If they don’t like their job why don’t they just resign to shift the burden from students’ shoulders instead of practicing violence and spreading their mental diseases like irremediable cancerous cells!