Sunday, September 11, 2011

Dissipate it!

Why I renounce my right in order to please and satisfy others permanently? Who is s/he to speak with me in disrespectful tone? I’m older and more erudite s/he can’t evaluate me. I’m their leader how dare they stand against me! I’m older and wiser; don’t judge me and just listen quietly.

Lately I’ve been immersed in previous questions and thoughts in order to understand the main reason behind deifying our super ego.
Obviously overbearing super ego is precisely what made the Middle East region earned the reputation of being notorious recently.
However, Super ego is what drove leaders “Tyrants” to shed their people’ blood no matter how many victims they kill.

It also invades our debates when we have different dogmatisms or when an advice has been afforded regardless of the way we render the advice (either in public or privately), many folks reject advice in purpose of satisfying their super ego. Although accepting the advice in civilized way is not really sign of vulnerability.

However, here, I don’t allege the perfection. I came across in order to highlight something that leads to destructive outcomes. I personally make the same mistake; who does not anyhow? It’s like there is a crude inner voice within me that does not always allow me to skip others’ mistakes repeatedly. That inner voice permeates in our thoughts successfully under many values and ideas which involves “dignity, respect, firmness and repetitive forgiveness etc”.
Yes, we do forgive but we do not forget; this is a fact about us sadly. In our lives some positions left dark scars that made us act differently.

However, that reminded me of the demon’s saga when he refused to kneel for our father Adam and how his super ego and arrogance blinded him and accordingly will throw him into abyss inevitably.

Sometimes I find our attitudes a concise copy of demons; I wonder how we allow such thoughts to make us such dwarfs and superficial.

Thus, nothing breaks off relationships and intimacy like super-ego. But is it always negative in your viewpoint? Do you think the superego is something realted to our nature? And is it one of the main reasons that ceased some presidents to step aside during uprisings? Eventually, how do you quell your super ego whenever it surpasses the line?

Friday, April 8, 2011

Unbearable Distress!

How was your day at school? I asked.

My sister: Good. She replied.

And your friends? I added another question.

She paused for moments. During these moments I scanned her face precisely. The anguish on her face was extremely obvious. I was wondering what would make a kid at her age (almost 12 years old) grieve that much! Sounds like she did not get good marks? Or perhaps her teacher berated her deeply in front of her classmates? I was looking at her attentively to hear what’s wrong.

Then finally she broke the silence and started to talk. My friend’s home got burned days ago. They all survived except her youngest sister (two years old).She passed away. They all spent days in (intensive care) but her mother is still in there. I was scrutinizing her whilst she was talking, when the tears started to fill her eyes I interrupted her in order to cease her tears to shed. Actually I did not anticipate hearing sad news not really from her again!

And you reckless girl immediately wept when she told you what happened so she cried too. I said merrily then I chuckled. Suddenly she got irritated because of my response and the tears in her eyes faded away. I smiled because she did not truly cry, but to tell the truth I got so sad although I chuckled but it was faked one.

I attempted to shift the burden over her shoulders saying her friend must be grateful because her parents are still alive so everything is going to be fine. She nodded. Then another silence dominated the air in the room but for a long while.

What I heard from my sister took me back several years when a friend of mine told me her father passed away (May he rest in eternal pace) that moment still vivid in my mind when she started to weep silently while on the other side I was in a state of shock and disbelief. I did not shed a tear; I wasn’t able to utter a word. Not even tapped on her shoulder. I only took my sight away off her calmly. After a short time she composed herself together without my help. Although she was so young (almost 15) but she overcame her sorrows strongly. She was and still the same person I used to know outstanding, mature and cheerful.

Actually it’s not easy to hear bereavement especially for a kid at my sister’s age. One year ago two of her friends passed away. So, grief upon grief long after she can bear no more this time; she did not attend her school for two days. I am waiting for the time she left that burden behind. This is difficult, as children grieve differently from adults. Personally supporting people in general is so hard for me, I always avoid talking directly about sad feelings, I think it’s better to avoid discussing in order to protect people from the distressing details.

But hereI came across to hear how you support folks around you? Do you think expressing feelings truly comforts the inner pain? Do you agree with me that silnece is the best solution and the time can heal whatever within? Can you bear the moment when you see someone crying horifingly in fron of you? Though life sometimes turns crule but its magnificent gift!

Source of inspiration!

A special thank goes to my dear friend bonishmulima for awarding me inspirational award. That truly means a lot when it comes from looking forward and sensible blogger. You are beautiful source of inspiration yourself as well bonish.

Also, there are many other bloggers who really inspire me. They always put a smile on my face. I consider this award as a good chance to express my admiration here on my own page and say thanks for giving me the chance to read your notions and splendid diaries.
And here as a democratic blogger and rules breaker I will pass this award to the following bloggers differently though they suppose to pass it to other ten but they don’t really have to when it comes from me .

1- UAEian

2- Kitten

3- elshahlab’s

4- Symphonic Discord (all amazing team members in this blog)

5- Skeptical Empiricist

P.S. bomishmuslima I’m really honored, this is too much for such’ slacker’ blogger but thank you so much my dear, that made my day.

Friday, March 25, 2011

I'm flattered by distinctive award!


"You take time to read others posts, making valuable contributions to the topics in play. Your opinions even in your very own posts enthuse me making me want to challenge you (in a nice way) because I love a good debate. And a good debater with well grounded knowledge is what you are. I do so love your positivity, tenacity and maturity. Keep up the great work:) "

My dear friend Blue Pearl; your beautiful words added more inner strength to me. I’m overwhelmed and eternally grateful not only to this magnificent award with such stunning words you added but also to the discreet and fluent posts you write. Your sensitivity always touches my heart. You are just outstanding example of support and creativity. I’m so glad you love my blog that much, I’m truly honored. Thanks a lot darling.

As for challenging my posts it’s a pleasure to have tactful, cleaver and well-mannered challenger just like you.
Thanks again my dear.

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

More than beats

In fact, when our minds and hearts think separately a heavy burden placed on us. Somehow it puts us in bouts of Confusion-Bewilderment that are quite hard to switch off; we simply found ourselves trapped between mind and heart conflict for a long while to avoid ended with utter regret.

Of course, we take major decisions in different ways, some listen to their hearts blindly and others mute their hearts’ whispers and follow their brains altogether. And some attempt to make a balance in a way that makes them more comfortable.

However, for centuries it’s commonly discerned that heart is used solely as a source of sentiments and feelings but not thinking! Accordingly, when it comes to take over decisions the mind rules over the heart, when emotions like compassion, love and dislike are involved, the heart rules. Greeks are one of those who neglected emotions as a source of thoughts, they considered them as wild horses that had to be directed by intellect; on the other hand they worshiped the brain in a way that drove them to make a memory Goddess! Long before the brain structure had been discovered and the functions of the left and right hemispheres, Greeks made simple and so sophisticated methods that help memory soars successfully. But no one seriously consider the heart as a smart organ.

However, recently scientific evidence proved that heart can dictate the brain which is acclaimed as a more sensible and conventionally more realistic decision maker.

The new study shows that the heart’s nervous system contains around 40,000 neurons, called sensory neuritis “heart brain”, which send several signals like pain and other sensation feelings to the brain. Those signals have a regulatory role over many of the autonomic nervous system signals that flow out of the brain to the heart and to other body organs. They also fall into higher centers of the brain, where they may affect on perception, decision making and other cognitive processes.

Certainly, emotions are not always negative and do not always serve as enemies to rational thought. Neurologist Antonio Damasio points out in his book ‘Descartes’ Error’ that heart has rationality of emotion, where he confirmed the importance of emotions in decision making. He proved that patients with brain damage in the areas of the brain that integrate the emotional and cognitive system can no longer effectively function in the day-to-day realm, although their mental abilities are completely normal.

That study shows that the key to the successful integration of the mind and emotions lies in raising the coherence and harmonious process in both systems. This goes some way to explain the mighty power of emotions, in contrast to thought separately. When then emotion is experienced, it becomes great motivator of future behaviors and marks folks who excel in the face of life’s confrontations.

Indeed, the heart is brilliant muscle with unlimited skills that some still underestimating it. Actually, what aroused this post is a debate with a friend of mine weeks back further, when I told her somehow I’m truly yearning for certain state in U.S and I just can’t wait to go there. Her respond was a mixture of sarcasm with absolute wonder.

How could you yearn for state you never been to earlier? She said. The hearts love before we see things by eyes sometimes. I replied

Yes it does, this is a fact about our hearts, for instance; we love our creator though we did not see him and we love our profit too whilst we have never seen him before. Besides there is an important condition for being Muslim which states that we Must love our creator then our profit more than anything else!

That’s true hearts are insightful organs, we do not really listen to our hearts’ whispers attentively under the pretext of the rational thinking usually; for instance that takes place commonly for everyone when we meet those people who look very kind, they smile whenever our eyes meet, they serve us, and surprisingly when we need a help we always find them there standing by us. We approach them and consider them as a permanent gift and good friends; the ones who never simply vamoose one day. We help them back and afford them more sacrifices. We think they truly care and understand absolutely what is within us. Then suddenly we find them not the same people we used to know. We say they got changed and we attempt to find out some sensible excuses to avoid hurting ourselves, to satisfy our pride and minds. Unfortunately, that occurred because we muted our hearts’ whispers previously when our hearts rejected them from the first sight, though we get closer to be more rational depending on our former experiences. Then eventually we realize how hearts can see things we never see by eyes and how they amazingly wise!

Personally, that made a negative impact on me; I realized that I’m less social than ever before, in other words I just do not need any more friends. No additions to the ones I already call my gift.

Thus, we should not strain our hearts, although they are truly intelligent but they can’t always stand life’s tremendous pressure we put on them every once in a long while. Yes, the heart has separated intrinsic nervous system ‘heart brain’ that we can trust and control too, but we Must remember, heart can be a major source of diseases when it’s extremely stressed.

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Versatile and Stylish blogger!

Amazingly my heart and mind felt profound thank to my dear friend Blue Pearl for awarding me the versatile blogger award. Although I’m too late for this reply but I’m truly thankful for her. Thanks a lot for your lovely and your superb appreciation honey.

Accordingly, I must follow bloggers rule after getting the award which states writing SEVEN things about me then passing the award to other SEVEN whom simply do the same in case I don’t want to keep it any longer!

Here are seven things about me:

1- There is spontaneous analyzer within me which keeps analyzing people and read faces all the time silently.

2- I’m obsessed about my weight and cleanness!

3- I simply fall asleep when something upsets me or when I got mad as well.

4- I sleep solely in absolute darkness.

5- I'm a night person but sometiomes I don't like it.

6- Somehow sitting in unorganized place irritate me.

7- Seeing cats around me makes my movement ceased simply because I’m “phobic” since my childhood.

Dearest rose water; I’m really thankful for the award you gave me too (Stylish blogger). Thanks for your lovely award sweetheart. Before I state another seven things, I have a confession for you: well,I always impressed by you as European Muslim lady who still dwell on non-Islamic country which is truly uneasy thing especially for a lady. That reflects how strong and sensible you are. May Allah bless you dear.
Here are other seven things about me:

1- I’m still getting taller though I’m “twenty something” currently!

2- I’m movies addict and avid reader too.

3- I can control my outrage by remaining silent, but I reopen the subject that has angered me calmly.

4- I love fancy restaurants and spicy food.

5- I prefer reading your blogs rather than writing and replying.

6- I abruptly wake up if someone is gazing at me through my deep slumber!

7- I enjoy reading some political books and I really care about live news.

Warning: Dearest friends; I would keep those awards with me FOREVER under the title of ‘The gift not given away or sold’ though I appreciate you all profoundly. :P

Best regards R:)

Monday, January 17, 2011

The Mystery Of Life Curve!

Life is a marvelous odyssey that shaped in a mysterious curve which everything passes over. At the end of the odyssey nothing stays but only the immortal imprints that solely great people laid behind in history successfully.

Accordingly, I’ve been meditating the life’s curve for a while over and over again in purpose of figuring out something ambiguous to me. I couldn’t cease these thoughts and I don’t know if this curve involves one of the universal laws or there are some hidden facts and exceptions somewhere.

However, it seems that everything in life passes through peak then oddly somehow descended down to the bottom bit by bit ended by absolute disappearance.
For instance; at the middle of the day the sun hits its peak of strength, it strongly illuminates the sky then gradually losing its light and heat!
The moon, we catch the sight of it while it beautifully enlightening the sky in the middle of the month and then it gradually reshaped to crescent until it just disappears.
We humans reach our utter strength (physically and mentally) at the middle of our ages (the youth age) soon after we gradually get weaken.

The ancient great civilizations as well, went over the top of prosperity and advancement but where are those great civilizations power at present?
As follows, the Islamic civilization went along the height of progress too, but look where is it at the status qou.

Another vivid example “The United States”, it presided the entire world for long time undisputedly with perfect strength in different fields (economically, politically, scientifically...etc) and now it’s declining down gradually because of the financial crisis which it suffers from severely, though its unstoppable attempts to pull itself together and grab the global lordship tightly as before. However, some political analyzers recently said this catastrophic economical crisis will affect on U.S economy and soon after its global control inevitably.

On the other side “China” which has been supposed as a progressing country is strongly nominated to lead the world after U.S because of its excellent economical system which is growing amazingly. So it’s the time for it to hit the summit of advancement!
However, the matter is, when some reach the summit somehow others oddly decline! And as everything incredibly hits the peak it ended at the bottom eventually.

Accordingly, the previous thoughts provoked several wonders in my mind which are: Is there another peak after declining to the bottom eventually? And based on that do you think there is another peak quietly waiting for our Islamic civilization as the sun and moon cycle? Is it possible for us humans or governments to staying steadily on the peak without facing any struggles that may push us back to the bottom? Do you think U.S has the ability to surpass the economical crisis and ascend up back to its usual universal dominion? Do you think a country like China would have the chance to lead the world to the best one day? And finally do you enhance your mental skills in order to stay at the summit of youth (mentally) for longer?