Sunday, May 2, 2010

Another social crime


Today I come across after a friend of mine told me a tragic story happened in a hospital. She said she witnessed a married woman got beaten by her husband cruelly, and that left her arm broken and one of her ribs plus the dark red bruises he left over her face and rest of her body! That all happened to her cuz she asked him why you are late! After we finished our conversation I was in a shock for a while! How come a man beat his wife!

Another story I’ve heard before, it’s about a married woman who no longer feels safe in her home. She was beaten by her husband, although they were estranged, and her body was scarred after her injuries which had meant emergency medical attention.

She escaped to her parent’s home and her friends told her she must contact the police – for assistance and to lodge the formal complaint against her husband. Her friends tried to convince her that it’s the only way to make him understand the seriousness of his crime and to force him to control his anger.

But the problem is her family did not want their dirty linen exposed in public. They forced their daughter to keep the matter private, hoping that her husband would see sense. Her father and her brothers pledged that they would visit and talk to him.

This case is common. Women choosing not to speak up against the abuse they have suffered for fear of divorced, losing their children and being of neighborhood gossips!

Recently there are so many people suffering from the domestic violence and it became a contemporary issue which deficiency of passion during childhood is considered the matter of prime importance behind this crime. It somehow affects negatively on people for long extent, especially when the person had been exposed to beaten since his/her childhood.

The problem is those people take their bad memories and concepts about violence with them after marriage, consequently they think they have the right to beat their wives, and others see it’s a normal when a husband beat his wife or vice versa because they coexisted with such situations.

Nowadays people considered the domestic violence a crime against the society. It includes any physical and sexual abuse as well verbal violence and threats. And it has various aspects and affects any one irrespective of age, social background, gender, physical strength, or education. It could happen between spouses and among member of the related family.

The problem is social reasons cannot be overlooked. And there are so many reasons behind the domestic violence against women but I considered the misinterpretation of the religious concept of man’s control over domestic affairs. Some ignorant men believe this to be linked to the controlling of the wife by the husband, while in reality; it means looking after the wife and fulfilling her needs.

In UAE, Dubai foundation for women and children is active in protection victims of domestic violence and they accept people who seek refuge and who got burden from the maltreatment...

I don’t really think that would solve this problem. I mean for how long they would support those victims? Besides the tragic days they had been through would left a negative impact which yields the same previous stories over and over again.

Don’t you think they just push themselves to the edge with tragic consequences? They are humiliating and feeling unsafe at their homes, what are homes for other than feeling safe and happy in? I dunno but dignity is something that we can’t live without, it’s related to make us happy and satisfy human beings. Allah legitimate the divorce cuz sometimes marriage makes people get disenchanted with life, however Allah knows what is the best and sometimes divorce is the best solution at such cases.

7 التعليقات:

BuJ said...

oh, some men can be real pigs!

this is very endemic here, and very sad, and seems to get worse.

btw, something comic, but in the locker room (mens) in the basketball court i used to go to in cardiff was a sticker advertising a helpline (anonymous) to help men that were BEATEN by their wives!!!

of course i laughed at it, then asked some friends and they said it happens, but it's rare, and british men are very scared to do anything about it.

PS: note to self, do not marry a woman that can beat me up! make sure she's shorter, smaller and less muscular than me and has no skills in any martial arts!

Rationality said...

Yeah some of them are grumpy!

Really! And in basketball court LOL! I think men don't need a help in such situations *chuckle*, sounds funny.

Are you afraid from getting beaten? lol
I don't think you gonna marry a girl from al9a3eed those girls are just like men and maybe much stronger! Even if you got beaten she won't hurt you unless you are so puny ^^ ...

»•●•me you•●•« said...

Hi Rationality;
Oouh this is so sad. I don’t how those ladies endure their husbands when they beat them!Women love torturing themselves and they thought they scarifying.
They are without dignity and as you said divorce is a good solution sometimes.

eshda3wa said...

i think the dubai foundation is amazing.

its the first step to removing women and children from life threatening situations

i wish there were alot more foundations like it

Rationality said...

Hi, Me &u
So we share the same idea dear friend, yeah some women like torturing themselves dunno why!

eshda3wa
Welcome in my space. Yeah Dubai foundation is a good idea but somehow it's not always positive I think, it can support those victims for period of time but the agony would stuck at victims ever more!
Thanks for your comment :)

Haitham هيثم Al-Sheeshany الشيشاني said...

As I always like to say:
مجتمع ذكوري بامتياز! امتياز سلبي طبعا ً
:(

Rationality said...

Indeed it’s an absolute masculine society
Thanks for your words

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