Dissipate it!

Why I renounce my right in order to please and satisfy others permanently? Who is s/he to speak with me in disrespectful tone? I’m older and more erudite s/he can’t evaluate me. I’m their leader how dare they stand against me! I’m older and wiser; don’t judge me and just listen quietly.

Lately I’ve been immersed in previous questions and thoughts in order to understand the main reason behind deifying our super ego.
Obviously overbearing super ego is precisely what made the Middle East region earned the reputation of being notorious recently.
However, Super ego is what drove leaders “Tyrants” to shed their people’ blood no matter how many victims they kill.

It also invades our debates when we have different dogmatisms or when an advice has been afforded regardless of the way we render the advice (either in public or privately), many folks reject advice in purpose of satisfying their super ego. Although accepting the advice in civilized way is not really sign of vulnerability.

However, here, I don’t allege the perfection. I came across in order to highlight something that leads to destructive outcomes. I personally make the same mistake; who does not anyhow? It’s like there is a crude inner voice within me that does not always allow me to skip others’ mistakes repeatedly. That inner voice permeates in our thoughts successfully under many values and ideas which involves “dignity, respect, firmness and repetitive forgiveness etc”.
Yes, we do forgive but we do not forget; this is a fact about us sadly. In our lives some positions left dark scars that made us act differently.

However, that reminded me of the demon’s saga when he refused to kneel for our father Adam and how his super ego and arrogance blinded him and accordingly will throw him into abyss inevitably.

Sometimes I find our attitudes a concise copy of demons; I wonder how we allow such thoughts to make us such dwarfs and superficial.

Thus, nothing breaks off relationships and intimacy like super-ego. But is it always negative in your viewpoint? Do you think the superego is something realted to our nature? And is it one of the main reasons that ceased some presidents to step aside during uprisings? Eventually, how do you quell your super ego whenever it surpasses the line?

Unbearable Distress!

How was your day at school? I asked.

My sister: Good. She replied.

And your friends? I added another question.

She paused for moments. During these moments I scanned her face precisely. The anguish on her face was extremely obvious. I was wondering what would make a kid at her age (almost 12 years old) grieve that much! Sounds like she did not get good marks? Or perhaps her teacher berated her deeply in front of her classmates? I was looking at her attentively to hear what’s wrong.

Then finally she broke the silence and started to talk. My friend’s home got burned days ago. They all survived except her youngest sister (two years old).She passed away. They all spent days in (intensive care) but her mother is still in there. I was scrutinizing her whilst she was talking, when the tears started to fill her eyes I interrupted her in order to cease her tears to shed. Actually I did not anticipate hearing sad news not really from her again!

And you reckless girl immediately wept when she told you what happened so she cried too. I said merrily then I chuckled. Suddenly she got irritated because of my response and the tears in her eyes faded away. I smiled because she did not truly cry, but to tell the truth I got so sad although I chuckled but it was faked one.

I attempted to shift the burden over her shoulders saying her friend must be grateful because her parents are still alive so everything is going to be fine. She nodded. Then another silence dominated the air in the room but for a long while.

What I heard from my sister took me back several years when a friend of mine told me her father passed away (May he rest in eternal pace) that moment still vivid in my mind when she started to weep silently while on the other side I was in a state of shock and disbelief. I did not shed a tear; I wasn’t able to utter a word. Not even tapped on her shoulder. I only took my sight away off her calmly. After a short time she composed herself together without my help. Although she was so young (almost 15) but she overcame her sorrows strongly. She was and still the same person I used to know outstanding, mature and cheerful.

Actually it’s not easy to hear bereavement especially for a kid at my sister’s age. One year ago two of her friends passed away. So, grief upon grief long after she can bear no more this time; she did not attend her school for two days. I am waiting for the time she left that burden behind. This is difficult, as children grieve differently from adults. Personally supporting people in general is so hard for me, I always avoid talking directly about sad feelings, I think it’s better to avoid discussing in order to protect people from the distressing details.

But hereI came across to hear how you support folks around you? Do you think expressing feelings truly comforts the inner pain? Do you agree with me that silnece is the best solution and the time can heal whatever within? Can you bear the moment when you see someone crying horifingly in fron of you? Though life sometimes turns crule but its magnificent gift!





Source of inspiration!

A special thank goes to my dear friend bonishmulima for awarding me inspirational award. That truly means a lot when it comes from looking forward and sensible blogger. You are beautiful source of inspiration yourself as well bonish.

Also, there are many other bloggers who really inspire me. They always put a smile on my face. I consider this award as a good chance to express my admiration here on my own page and say thanks for giving me the chance to read your notions and splendid diaries.
And here as a democratic blogger and rules breaker I will pass this award to the following bloggers differently though they suppose to pass it to other ten but they don’t really have to when it comes from me .

1- UAEian

2- Kitten

3- elshahlab’s

4- Symphonic Discord (all amazing team members in this blog)

5- Skeptical Empiricist

P.S. bomishmuslima I’m really honored, this is too much for such’ slacker’ blogger but thank you so much my dear, that made my day.

I'm flattered by distinctive award!

Rationality

"You take time to read others posts, making valuable contributions to the topics in play. Your opinions even in your very own posts enthuse me making me want to challenge you (in a nice way) because I love a good debate. And a good debater with well grounded knowledge is what you are. I do so love your positivity, tenacity and maturity. Keep up the great work:) "

My dear friend Blue Pearl; your beautiful words added more inner strength to me. I’m overwhelmed and eternally grateful not only to this magnificent award with such stunning words you added but also to the discreet and fluent posts you write. Your sensitivity always touches my heart. You are just outstanding example of support and creativity. I’m so glad you love my blog that much, I’m truly honored. Thanks a lot darling.

As for challenging my posts it’s a pleasure to have tactful, cleaver and well-mannered challenger just like you.

Thanks again my dear.

More than beats

In fact, when our minds and hearts think separately a heavy burden placed on us. Somehow it puts us in bouts of Confusion-Bewilderment that are quite hard to switch off; we simply found ourselves trapped between mind and heart conflict for a long while to avoid ended with utter regret.

Of course, we take major decisions in different ways, some listen to their hearts blindly and others mute their hearts’ whispers and follow their brains altogether. And some attempt to make a balance in a way that makes them more comfortable.

However, for centuries it’s commonly discerned that heart is used solely as a source of sentiments and feelings but not thinking! Accordingly, when it comes to take over decisions the mind rules over the heart, when emotions like compassion, love and dislike are involved, the heart rules. Greeks are one of those who neglected emotions as a source of thoughts, they considered them as wild horses that had to be directed by intellect; on the other hand they worshiped the brain in a way that drove them to make a memory Goddess! Long before the brain structure had been discovered and the functions of the left and right hemispheres, Greeks made simple and so sophisticated methods that help memory soars successfully. But no one seriously consider the heart as a smart organ.

However, recently scientific evidence proved that heart can dictate the brain which is acclaimed as a more sensible and conventionally more realistic decision maker.

The new study shows that the heart’s nervous system contains around 40,000 neurons, called sensory neuritis “heart brain”, which send several signals like pain and other sensation feelings to the brain. Those signals have a regulatory role over many of the autonomic nervous system signals that flow out of the brain to the heart and to other body organs. They also fall into higher centers of the brain, where they may affect on perception, decision making and other cognitive processes.

Certainly, emotions are not always negative and do not always serve as enemies to rational thought. Neurologist Antonio Damasio points out in his book ‘Descartes’ Error’ that heart has rationality of emotion, where he confirmed the importance of emotions in decision making. He proved that patients with brain damage in the areas of the brain that integrate the emotional and cognitive system can no longer effectively function in the day-to-day realm, although their mental abilities are completely normal.

That study shows that the key to the successful integration of the mind and emotions lies in raising the coherence and harmonious process in both systems. This goes some way to explain the mighty power of emotions, in contrast to thought separately. When then emotion is experienced, it becomes great motivator of future behaviors and marks folks who excel in the face of life’s confrontations.

Indeed, the heart is brilliant muscle with unlimited skills that some still underestimating it. Actually, what aroused this post is a debate with a friend of mine weeks back further, when I told her somehow I’m truly yearning for certain state in U.S and I just can’t wait to go there. Her respond was a mixture of sarcasm with absolute wonder.

How could you yearn for state you never been to earlier? She said. The hearts love before we see things by eyes sometimes. I replied

Yes it does, this is a fact about our hearts, for instance; we love our creator though we did not see him and we love our profit too whilst we have never seen him before. Besides there is an important condition for being Muslim which states that we Must love our creator then our profit more than anything else!

That’s true hearts are insightful organs, we do not really listen to our hearts’ whispers attentively under the pretext of the rational thinking usually; for instance that takes place commonly for everyone when we meet those people who look very kind, they smile whenever our eyes meet, they serve us, and surprisingly when we need a help we always find them there standing by us. We approach them and consider them as a permanent gift and good friends; the ones who never simply vamoose one day. We help them back and afford them more sacrifices. We think they truly care and understand absolutely what is within us. Then suddenly we find them not the same people we used to know. We say they got changed and we attempt to find out some sensible excuses to avoid hurting ourselves, to satisfy our pride and minds. Unfortunately, that occurred because we muted our hearts’ whispers previously when our hearts rejected them from the first sight, though we get closer to be more rational depending on our former experiences. Then eventually we realize how hearts can see things we never see by eyes and how they amazingly wise!

Personally, that made a negative impact on me; I realized that I’m less social than ever before, in other words I just do not need any more friends. No additions to the ones I already call my gift.

Thus, we should not strain our hearts, although they are truly intelligent but they can’t always stand life’s tremendous pressure we put on them every once in a long while. Yes, the heart has separated intrinsic nervous system ‘heart brain’ that we can trust and control too, but we Must remember, heart can be a major source of diseases when it’s extremely stressed.

Versatile and Stylish blogger!

Amazingly my heart and mind felt profound thank to my dear friend Blue Pearl for awarding me the versatile blogger award. Although I’m too late for this reply but I’m truly thankful for her. Thanks a lot for your lovely and your superb appreciation honey.

Accordingly, I must follow bloggers rule after getting the award which states writing SEVEN things about me then passing the award to other SEVEN whom simply do the same in case I don’t want to keep it any longer!

Here are seven things about me:

1- There is spontaneous analyzer within me which keeps analyzing people and read faces all the time silently.

2- I’m obsessed about my weight and cleanness!

3- I simply fall asleep when something upsets me or when I got mad as well.

4- I sleep solely in absolute darkness.

5- I'm a night person but sometiomes I don't like it.

6- Somehow sitting in unorganized place irritate me.

7- Seeing cats around me makes my movement ceased simply because I’m “phobic” since my childhood.

Dearest rose water; I’m really thankful for the award you gave me too (Stylish blogger). Thanks for your lovely award sweetheart. Before I state another seven things, I have a confession for you: well,I always impressed by you as European Muslim lady who still dwell on non-Islamic country which is truly uneasy thing especially for a lady. That reflects how strong and sensible you are. May Allah bless you dear.

Here are other seven things about me:

1- I’m still getting taller though I’m “twenty something” currently!

2- I’m movies addict and avid reader too.

3- I can control my outrage by remaining silent, but I reopen the subject that has angered me calmly.

4- I love fancy restaurants and spicy food.

5- I prefer reading your blogs rather than writing and replying.

6- I abruptly wake up if someone is gazing at me through my deep slumber!

7- I enjoy reading some political books and I really care about live news.

Warning: Dearest friends; I would keep those awards with me FOREVER under the title of ‘The gift not given away or sold’ though I appreciate you all profoundly. :P

Best regards R:)

The Mystery Of Life Curve!

Life is a marvelous odyssey that shaped in a mysterious curve which everything passes over. At the end of the odyssey nothing stays but only the immortal imprints that solely great people laid behind in history successfully.

Accordingly, I’ve been meditating the life’s curve for a while over and over again in purpose of figuring out something ambiguous to me. I couldn’t cease these thoughts and I don’t know if this curve involves one of the universal laws or there are some hidden facts and exceptions somewhere.

However, it seems that everything in life passes through peak then oddly somehow descended down to the bottom bit by bit ended by absolute disappearance.
For instance; at the middle of the day the sun hits its peak of strength, it strongly illuminates the sky then gradually losing its light and heat!
The moon, we catch the sight of it while it beautifully enlightening the sky in the middle of the month and then it gradually reshaped to crescent until it just disappears.
We humans reach our utter strength (physically and mentally) at the middle of our ages (the youth age) soon after we gradually get weaken.

The ancient great civilizations as well, went over the top of prosperity and advancement but where are those great civilizations power at present?
As follows, the Islamic civilization went along the height of progress too, but look where is it at the status qou.

Another vivid example “The United States”, it presided the entire world for long time undisputedly with perfect strength in different fields (economically, politically, scientifically...etc) and now it’s declining down gradually because of the financial crisis which it suffers from severely, though its unstoppable attempts to pull itself together and grab the global lordship tightly as before. However, some political analyzers recently said this catastrophic economical crisis will affect on U.S economy and soon after its global control inevitably.

On the other side “China” which has been supposed as a progressing country is strongly nominated to lead the world after U.S because of its excellent economical system which is growing amazingly. So it’s the time for it to hit the summit of advancement!
However, the matter is, when some reach the summit somehow others oddly decline! And as everything incredibly hits the peak it ended at the bottom eventually.

Accordingly, the previous thoughts provoked several wonders in my mind which are: Is there another peak after declining to the bottom eventually? And based on that do you think there is another peak quietly waiting for our Islamic civilization as the sun and moon cycle? Is it possible for us humans or governments to staying steadily on the peak without facing any struggles that may push us back to the bottom? Do you think U.S has the ability to surpass the economical crisis and ascend up back to its usual universal dominion? Do you think a country like China would have the chance to lead the world to the best one day? And finally do you enhance your mental skills in order to stay at the summit of youth (mentally) for longer?

When the man weeps...

Somehow it awes me acutely when I see a dignified man weeping in front of me. For some reasons it’s commonly discerned that masculine tears do not simply shed in public!

However, I have witnessed two abrupt reactions that still remain vivid in my memory. The first, when I was still freshmen or almost sophomore. During asking my professor some questions; he got a phone call, after he ended his call which did not exceed several minutes with limited and countable words like “yes, aha, okay then goodbye” he gasped his pen silently trying to explain the question I asked. While he was clearing my question, gradually his voice was getting stifled then suddenly his eyes rolled with tears. His ability to speak totally ceased. Somehow his miserable state and the way he sniveled dismayed me.

“Well, I got it now, thank you sir I have no more questions” I calmly said. He nodded once as to say you can go. Then I left the place swiftly in a state of bewilderment with achy heart. The next day we heard that his brother passed away.

The second, was utterly not anticipated which occurred couple of days ago after a long debate with my uncle. Actually he is political man with utterly serious and choosy personality but on the opposite he is such kindhearted person. However, the main reason behind our debate is that he was upset with me.

” For some reasons I’m really upset with you” My uncle firmly said.

” What is the reason behind upsetting you?” I demanded in a shock.

“First of all; listen to me dear, if you’re not dear to me I won’t tell you that” he said.

“Sure” I nodded preparing myself for the next.

“Well; since I traveled out of the country I did not get even one phone call from you, I spent almost one month there, why?” he said sedately.

“Besides you know that I have never ever upset you even by hint” he added.

I was listening to him while he was talking hoping that my reasons can persuade him.

“ Well, believe me I always ask my family about you, plus once you told that the spiritual connection is better than phone calls as long as you’re alright; I get all your news daily so no need to disturb you during your business trip I think” I said in a low voice.

He stared at me as my justifications are not persuasive enough as I don’t really care.

“Hmmm….” My uncle said shaking his head slowly from side to side.

” Uh my dear uncle; you don’t know how much I love you and how much I care about you. You’re like my father; you mean a lot to me. Everyone knows that you’re mostly strict but what I believe in is that you’re such tenderhearted. You’re one of the most beautiful parts in my life. I stated impulsively.

“The transparency in the way you expressed your feelings made me speechless” he said surprisingly.

However, when I peeked into him I glimpsed his eyes red and almost in tears. He was looking away from me so that he let his tears dry within before they disheartens him and shed down.

Subconsciously tears filled my eyes too; after I marveled at his first emotional respond I’ve never seen before.

That moment I was thinking about something to break the silence which ruled the atmosphere.

Suddenly my sister came telling me I got a phone call (Thank God). I looked at him to ask if I can go. He nodded at me silently.

To be honest, I left the place smiling with great ease telling myself that people around me are right when they say that I respond unpredictably sometimes but finally I saw your tears mighty man!

The next day I was waiting attentively to hear my uncle’s usual gossips about how we both responded; but he did not tell anybody till now neither me.

What I’m sure about; when it comes to his valuable masculine tears he will never ever say. But the thing that I still did not understand yet; why men feel it’s ashamed when their tears dropped for a serious reason; why they deny their sympathy and prefer facing the world rigidly evermore?

I abhor the tears when the reason behind shedding them is something ridiculous. But it’s fine when we disburden our heads and express what we feel simply.

To my uncle; thank you for your supportive words I’m eternally grateful, and thank you for your faith on me. Love you my dearest uncle.



I'm a birthday girl

Here I came saying cheerily “Happy Birthday To Me”; wishing myself having a marvelous year suffused with merriness and mighty success.

A funny quote just popped into my mind during writing says: “The secret to staying young is to live honestly, eat slowly, and lie about your age.” :D

Wondering why ladies mostly obsessed by staying younger ever more!:D

P.S. To Stay Young Keep Growing Old Gracefully. ;)

best regards

The art of criticism

The anguish in his face looks as raw as it should have felt what always bothers him as he allows the harsh criticizing words he almost daily hears to bob to the surface briefly, before pushing them back down. He attempts to keep what annoyed him and break it by jokes, after listening to his complaints and grumbling in his usual funny tone we both burst laughing.

This is my brother, who utterly got resented when my mother calls him whenever he stays out late.

He says her discourteous way of criticizing him after answering her calls makes him as a joke in front of his peers; and the hilarious thing is he told me they all are treated exactly the same by their mothers and getting phone calls is like hell.

Not only that but his next session is waiting for him immediately when he gets back home so that she criticizes his irresponsibility toward himself and his frivolity etc...

The matter is he does not understand why she usually does that and on the opposite side she does not have a clue that she is criticizing not advising him. I’ve tried repeatedly to explain to them both. But I talked, to no avail.

However criticizing is an art that we must be aware of. And it has good and bad impact which depends on the accent during talking. There is a good way that we can criticize our beloveds and people around us that turn the disapproval to constructive criticism and then positive outcomes appear.

Of course, people do not accept any criticism when they take it personally or even when they got criticized in public or around people even close ones.

I refuse criticizing when I found it worthless. I’ve always found it somehow too complicated for me to refuse my parents criticism. It’s hard to change their solid grasps of thoughts and it's so hard to use the word "no" when they speak. Although somehow I believe that criticizing profoundly benefits us and any clue is subject to change with fruitful outcomes.

However what I'm attempting to reach is how to handle criticism! How could you accept criticism by close ones like parents? When you put the limits of criticism so you cease any criticizer? When you start criticizing and when you just cease it? And what kind of criticism benefits you profoundly in life if there is any superb impact?

Back to hell

This picture has been taken by me. It’s a simple gift  my school girl sister got it from her friend before school starts to welcome her back to school by her unique way!

The moment I read what’s written on the small card " back to hell " I opened my eyes widely then we all burst giggling, what a naughty girl!

I know how it feels when the bells keep ringing *back to school *. At our schools very few number of the competent teachers who like their job and do their job faithfully. Unfortunately the first and last aim of most of them is taking SALARY every month.

Recently I had never met a child told me that s/he loves the school neither adolescent. Somehow that peeved me but that is the truth. To wit, that mess is absolutely against Islam!

However, I had read once about the power of belief and how it shapes our actions and makes lasting changes in our lives marvelously. The writer talked about one great leader who impressed me. She is a TEACHER; she made a real difference in children’s lives, because she has a passionate deep-rooted conviction way that impacts her students for good.

The writer visited her school so that he interviewed one of her students. He interviewed a boy around four years old. The boy believes in such great clues that really stunned me. During the interview the boy said the most important thing he learned from his teacher is “The society may predict, but only he will determine his destiny”!

He owned beliefs that his teacher permeated in their souls beautifully. And I guarantee him and all his class mates’ bright future.

I wonder if there are teachers in our nations who make great impacts in students’ lives instead of compelling them to despise schools and let them pass through psychological wars ended with antipathy towards school and backward societies.

During my life time in school I have seen so many bad examples of teachers who really need two things “reeducation plus psychiatrist” to amend their personal problems.

Don’t know what on earth is wrong with teachers! If they don’t like their job why don’t they just resign to shift the burden from students’ shoulders instead of practicing violence and spreading their mental diseases like irremediable cancerous cells!

My inner whispers!

From within me to dear Me!
Dear Rationality, keep cleansing your heart by worshiping and staying close to Allah. Fill your heart with warmth and love. I know you keep saying life is enigmatic and you can’t get people. Just accept people as they are. Sometimes we people can’t get changed. Accept people’s apologies, give people chances to talk, listen to them, and help them whenever they need you. Stay away from recent era diseases like antipathy, envy and grudge; that would blind you totally!


Dear Rationality it’s not abnormal to get frustrated for a while. Who hasn’t anyhow? However the key is not to get so deep in grief, it will cease you pursuing your dreams. Just let your destiny takes you wherever it goes as long as you do your best; and you are under Allah almighty mercy so, don’t annoy yourself thinking anymore!


*Remember dear that grumbling and complaining yields you Nothing so be stronger and more patient to overcome life’s obstacles.

Dear Rationality, life is precious gift and life’s odyssey is limited; it must have some obstacles which might stumble you. That is absolutely normal but the succeed people are the ones who learn how to take the advantage of any situation considering it as a new lesson. So enjoy every moment while you still breathing. Keep dreaming, keep laughing and smiling. Be yourself the optimistic girl who I always know. As you know the sweet days can never come back again, just focus on present and enjoy yourself.
And yes, don’t ever think that confronting me is an act of madness, to wit, I know you somehow believe that there is no great genius without some touch of madness. So please keep the solid grasp of superb values and beliefs you have.


With deepest love, truly Your inner whispers :)

P.S I wore the words above since almost one year ago, and a friend of mine ecouraged me to post them after I got hesitated to free them in here. Thanks a lot my dear friend :)

Satisfaction Brings Happiness!

Our existence in life leads us to take the charge of our aims, beliefs and feelings in order to amend the process of our lives. We try doing our best to alter the negative outcomes to simply reach happiness in other word “satisfaction”.

We all have our dreams hence; we believe in ourselves that we have special abilities or gifts which can touch others in unique way so we can make the world better place.

After a deep thinking about plenty of things that I’m highly aiming at, I asked myself the following questions:
Am I satisfied? When I still aiming at several things; does it mean that I’m not satisfied so I considered being unhappy person?
Does happiness related to satisfaction? And is it imperative that we ask: Does happiness come to the ones who own satisfaction? Or it’s just satisfaction with what we all own so we can be happy?
That time I got a certain degree of bewilderment; how come I consider myself happy but still not satisfied? :)

To many, money is a basic component of owing the happiness and satisfaction. People hit the summit of happiness when they just own precious and luxury stuffs!

In fact, we human beings have the instinct of desiring more and more so the materialistic things soon become ordinary after we get them. Therefore, we keep looking for new things to feel what we expect as satisfaction… We are greedy don’t we!

Eventually I got two simple queries :)
- What is happiness and satisfaction on your point of view?
- Suppose the time is reserved, so you have the chance to change your lifestyle. Would you re-plan the events of your life in order to achieve the satisfaction? Or you will just stick to the same kind of life?

Phones are source of germs!

Mobiles are pretty important. With time they become one of the most necessary things people extremely use daily. A new study in UK shows that mobiles carries 18 times more harmful germs than flush handle and lavatory seats in WCs! The tests show one of the mobiles has such high level of bacteria which could make a serious stomach upset to its owner!

It said the level of the harmful bacteria inhabited in phones were off scale. That phones needs STERELIZING.

The study showed that there were more than 18 different types of bacteria which are:

- Enterobacteria: a group of bacteria which live in lower intestine level.

- Bugs such as Salmonella.

- Faecal conliforms: a group of bacteria associated with human waste.

- Food poisoning bugs like E.coli and staphylococcus aureus but those found at a safe levels.

*Besides the study shows that some computer keyboards have more harmful bacteria that lavatory seats! YUCK

Well I’m sort of obsessed by sterilizing my hands from time to time and whenever I had training in the hospital I keep the sterilizer close to me so I can keep cleaning at the whole time I spend there . Besides I don’t think that we Muslims carries that huge number of germs and bacteria as long as we wash our hands, ears and faces five times per day in order to pray and sometimes more than five. To me it’s not that accurate study while it depends on the person cleanness but it's weird cuz it is more Contaminated than lavatory seats!

Words ultimate power!

Words… They have been used to communicate between human beings since long time ago. They make us laugh and make us cry. They make us sick and make us fine. They have the power to heal the spiritual wounds inside. They have the power to kill and make us alive!


Words… have the power to not only make emotional frenzy but they generate great actions. By using words great people have been made. Words are just a magical ultimate power that we can’t see but we can feel…

Despite of knowing how we get influenced by words but sometimes we use them negatively!
I witnessed a fight between two people who I know. The fight started with arguing but it ended in full-fledged rage … each one of them was saying so harsh words that were really sharp. I was listening silently and just looking at them without uttering even one word…

However, when people got irritated they just look like they got possessed by demons! They look like utter devil in humans shape with really bad deeds! But why!
In Islam our prophet Mohammed PBUH said we ought to change our posture whenever we get mad in order to calm down. And if that does not work we have to make *wodho’* (It is Islamic way to wash our organs before praying to make our bodies pure).
Why *wodho’*? Because Satan was created by fire and nothing can cease fire except the water!

I’m wondering why we give Satan the chance to possess us over and over again. Does that make us comfortable? Or we are just so weak so we can’t control ourselves? Where is the self-control? I’m not saying that I don’t get mad ever but after I do, I found myself full of regret and feel like I’m a tiny creature coz I failed in controlling myself even if I’m not mistaken.

Once I had read an article about how could we manage our temper, there are so many ways to but there is one way I found kinda ridiculous which tells one of the best ways to cease getting mad is convincing the person you’re talking to. Don’t you think that method is impossible sometimes? I’ve met so many stubborn and ignorant people who just don’t want to understand or even listen during any conversation whenever they are disagree!

Regardless of what had been written above my question is: do you believe in the power of words? And if you do what would be your respond if someone close attack you by sharp words?

Kind regards..

Weird attitude!

I found this hilarious video on youtube about the former US president Gorge Bosh.


It shows how superficial and rude he is! Dunno how he spent that long time as a president!

Here we go…

Life's Melody

In life we pass through many moments which make us happy and sometimes disenchanted with life. But I realized even sorrow could be sweet sometimes cuz without sorrow we won’t appreciate how the taste of happiness is sweet! Here I post other marvelous words which captivated me:

“”Life is like a piano; White keys are happy moments & Black keys are sad moments. But remember both are played together to give sweet ~melodies~””

So sweet and positive words…Those words show the harmony between sorrow and happiness moments Allah the almighty created!
And here is one of my favorite melodies:

Moonlight sonata

Another social crime

Today I come across after a friend of mine told me a tragic story happened in a hospital. She said she witnessed a married woman got beaten by her husband cruelly, and that left her arm broken and one of her ribs plus the dark red bruises he left over her face and rest of her body! That all happened to her cuz she asked him why you are late! After we finished our conversation I was in a shock for a while! How come a man beat his wife!

Another story I’ve heard before, it’s about a married woman who no longer feels safe in her home. She was beaten by her husband, although they were estranged, and her body was scarred after her injuries which had meant emergency medical attention.

She escaped to her parent’s home and her friends told her she must contact the police – for assistance and to lodge the formal complaint against her husband. Her friends tried to convince her that it’s the only way to make him understand the seriousness of his crime and to force him to control his anger.

But the problem is her family did not want their dirty linen exposed in public. They forced their daughter to keep the matter private, hoping that her husband would see sense. Her father and her brothers pledged that they would visit and talk to him.

This case is common. Women choosing not to speak up against the abuse they have suffered for fear of divorced, losing their children and being of neighborhood gossips!

Recently there are so many people suffering from the domestic violence and it became a contemporary issue which deficiency of passion during childhood is considered the matter of prime importance behind this crime. It somehow affects negatively on people for long extent, especially when the person had been exposed to beaten since his/her childhood.

The problem is those people take their bad memories and concepts about violence with them after marriage, consequently they think they have the right to beat their wives, and others see it’s a normal when a husband beat his wife or vice versa because they coexisted with such situations.

Nowadays people considered the domestic violence a crime against the society. It includes any physical and sexual abuse as well verbal violence and threats. And it has various aspects and affects any one irrespective of age, social background, gender, physical strength, or education. It could happen between spouses and among member of the related family.

The problem is social reasons cannot be overlooked. And there are so many reasons behind the domestic violence against women but I considered the misinterpretation of the religious concept of man’s control over domestic affairs. Some ignorant men believe this to be linked to the controlling of the wife by the husband, while in reality; it means looking after the wife and fulfilling her needs.

In UAE, Dubai foundation for women and children is active in protection victims of domestic violence and they accept people who seek refuge and who got burden from the maltreatment...

I don’t really think that would solve this problem. I mean for how long they would support those victims? Besides the tragic days they had been through would left a negative impact which yields the same previous stories over and over again.

Don’t you think they just push themselves to the edge with tragic consequences? They are humiliating and feeling unsafe at their homes, what are homes for other than feeling safe and happy in? I dunno but dignity is something that we can’t live without, it’s related to make us happy and satisfy human beings. Allah legitimate the divorce cuz sometimes marriage makes people get disenchanted with life, however Allah knows what is the best and sometimes divorce is the best solution at such cases.

Is it our nature!

Good morning/evening;

While I was roaming in the web I found out the following comic; somehow I liked it cuz I found it funny and realistic at the same time, that’s why I come across to drop it in...
Here we go

We all humans are ungrateful, mostly we do not appreciate the graces and gifts we own, we keep looking for the best and that is normal, but the problem is we often prefer what others have more than what we have! I’m wondering when we will be more Thankful!

offensive advice!

Couple of days ago I went to the mall with my family; it was around 5:00 PM. When it was almaghrib prayer time, we all approached to the prayer room to not miss the prayer. When I was there beside the room doorstep there was a lady who does not look Arabian standing there with her adorable kids who got my attention for a while. We both entered the room at the same time, the place there was congested and that somehow made me got relief. Anyway she left her children at the back of the room then she started praying beside me. When she got started praying her younger kid started weeping intensively by way which muddled up the whole place. After we all over and done with praying, one aggressive lady started to shout in a terrible and fury way saying “where on earth is the mother of this kid?” His mother hurried on and caught her kid to shush him. While she was trying to calm him down, that irritated lady came closer to her and said in barbarian tone “ hay you lady don’t ever bring your noisy children in here again we could not even focus, stay at your home and pray there but not in here”. The mother of the kid did not reply she just kept silent with a big shock. That poor lady did not even understand what she said, she is not Arabian but she read the anger tone in her face and voice it was extremely vivid.

At least she has to respect the holy place she is in I think! Is that a way to dispense a foreigner advice? Does it because that lady does not belong to the area so she has the right to treat her cruelly? Does it because she is suffering from the lack of self-esteem so that push her to tyrannize the poor lady who she feels somehow she has the power on her? Unfortunately mostly people who dispense advices are ignorant even the erudite people sometimes can’t handle their anger tone when they advice someone close!

That is not away to advice someone it’s absolutely rejected in Islam. When it comes to giving advice I consider what she did just offensive and stupid speech. Actually I got resented by what I saw. People do not understand what the real Islam is; they just keep worshiping without any value principle forgetting that ((Our Islam is not only dogma and worship but it’s also ethics and dealing well with people)). We are all familiar with that story of the man who got heaven cuz he fed a dog. Our religion resembles mercy for every single creature. But still people do not understand our Islam. I’m still in bewilderment looking for a solution makes people more informative to dispense and accept advices!